How are You Getting in Your Way?
Have you ever considered that you may be setting limits for yourself that are getting in your way? Here is a list of ways, in which you may be doing exactly that.
Perfectionist: a person who demands perfection of himself, herself, or others.
Self-doubter: a person who lacks confidence in the reliability of one's own motives, personality, thought, etc.
Fear dweller: a person who lives in a continuous state of:
- Fear of the unknown
- Fear of failure
- Fear of loss
Your Behavior Drive Your Thoughts
- Have you felt held back or limited?
- Have you felt more afraid or filled with more self-doubt because you felt held back or limited
- Have you experienced procrastination, or worse yet, not getting things done because of your perfectionism, self-doubt, AND/OR fears?
Take a deep breath. Don't have an anxiety attack here. You're in good hands.
You Most Certainly are Not Alone
Whether you are one of those or all of those, know that you are not alone. You see, I may have exercised all of the above a time or two or three or four and a whole lot more. I also know first hand what it is like to be the creator of my own limitations because I too have exercised the perfectionist, self-doubter, and fear dweller in me.
You Have What it Takes to Get out of Your Own Way
We may be perfectionists, self-doubters, and fear dwellers, but I also know I am, and I'm guessing you are too, a…
Self-improver: a person who strives to improve one's mind, character, health, body, on and on, through one's own efforts.
As self-improvers, maybe even high achievers (wink wink), what matters most is what we do to no longer get in our own way.
What Can We Do to Get Out of Our Own Way?
1. Learn more about the reason for can. will. DONE.: Check out this video.
Speaking of being a perfectionist – this is the good kind (smile) – I would really love it if you would be a part of the improvement process for future videos. Leave a comment below to offer suggestions for making better videoes in the future. Let's see who will note the top three things that I would improve about the video.
2. Live the can. will. DONE way: I mention this message on the About page, but I will list it here as well.
- Identify what is limiting you
- Change your thoughts
- Believe you can
- Act on what you say you will do
- so you can get to DONE
In a previous post, “Saying “I can’t” is limiting you. Don’t let it.“, I demonstrated how I put this method into practice. It is not limited to working out. You can use this in every aspect of your life.
3. You tell your mind and body what it will do: When you hear yourself saying something negative, or a limiting thought, stop yourself, then say out loud and like you mean it, “I tell you what to do!” On an episode of The Biggest Loser, when one of the contestants started to quit on an exercise because they thought they couldn't do it, Dolvett Quince, a trainer on the show, yelled, “You tell your body what it's going to do!”. I have been saying that to myself every since. It has worked wonders in my life. In fact, it is a method I used to push forward with going live with this blog.
4. Don't just move your body, challenge it: Call me crazy, but if you want to push through the thoughts in your head, challenge your body. Pay attention to your thoughts. Pay attention to how they change as you progress and improve. Pay attention to how what is happening to you and around you mimics your life experiences. Trust me, when you get in tune with that, you'll feel like a reformed perfectionist, self-doubter, and fear dweller. I will talk about that reformation in a future post.
5. Stay connected: There are times in our life where we need a community to share ideas, troubles, and challenges. Through can. will. done. you can become a part of that community. Scroll up to the upper right of the page, enter your name and email address to know when there are new posts. Leave your comments below. Share posts by clicking on the Facebook and Twitter links directly below, or by clicking one of the share buttons below or above this post.
Which of the above describes you? What other self-blockers do you possess? How do you keep them at bay? Comment and share in the comment section below, on Facebook, or on Twitter.